I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. Next step.... I have an appointment with a new psychologist tomorrow afternoon. Today was one of my worsts days yet.
Edit...... I attended my appointment with the psychologist today. It was a big step for me. I am not good at admitting that I have problems and even worse at talking about them. This man was very smart and very good at what he does. I learned a lot, but still feel as though my head is cluttered and I am feeling just as lost and confused, BUT.... I know this this feeling is going to one day pass. That I am not stuck like this forever.
I learned the 4 things main things you NEED to have a healthy relationship. He explained to me that feelings LIE. That feelings are not objective, and that feelings are influenced and can be false.
4 Things you Need to have a healthy relationship.
1) LOVE - interest
2) ACTION - predict
- Direct
- Manage
3) ACCOUNTABILITY - Confrontation (compassion)
(criticism)
4) RESPECT
All of the above will bring trust. To be able to trust some other person with your heart and your soul. It all sounds simple enough, BUT.....
6 comments:
It's so good for you to write these things down that you learned. I am glad you liked your doctor and he took the time to do his job. Let him help you. You will get through this, and be so proud of yourself.
Good for you. It's a start. Keep going!
Leigh I'm so proud of you that your moving forward with this! You will get to where you need to be just give yourself time.
Perhaps how open and honest oyour being about what your going through will help someone else to do what they need to do and overcome.
As for relationships....I'm no psychologist but maybe those are thigs you need to develop in your relationship with yourself! if only you saw you like others do, (the good people not the judgemental assholes who gossip and tear you down behind your back) then you would love yourself!
keep up the good work
xoxoxoxox
thinking of you
xo
Thinking of you, too.
The cartoon's hilarious!
I also wish God didn't trust me so much!
I have mental illness, and always have (though it didn't surface until November, 1985). I have never been clinically depressed--my problem is the opposite, mania. And it's not a happy mania, like some people have--it's terrifying, I have severe anxiety and panic-attacks.
But you are brave to admit you have problems! There are so many people who are too proud to seek treatment. But I'm proud that I do!
As for the relationship guidelines you list, you're right--they look so good on paper, but are impossible to follow. Because people are very complicated, relationships are very complicated.
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